iWill or iWon’t? {part one}

A parenting cross road. Cell phone or no cell phone?

I recently sent the below email to a couple of girlfriends to take a survey as to my mom-making decision abilities as of lately.

Dear Wise Moms,

I have a mom question for you two.

Britton needed a phone for her Mini Mu meet (competitive math meet) last weekend. It was a County Middle school with 400 kids- scary for me, not necessarily her. I asked Mike to get her a disposable phone on his way home from work, and- finding the “best deal” like he loves to do, he came home with a new iPhone for her. We told her it was a third family phone for her to use when she needs it (swimming practice, taking the bus home, etc) she will get it for that period of time, but then it is to be stowed with me. Anyway, after thinking about it some more we decided that she doesn’t talk enough to warrant the $40 month service fee. Heck, she probably won’t take 40 minutes a month. So we returned it.  She is less than thrilled , obviously.

Do the 4th grade kids over there have cell phones? B is telling me most of the kids in her class do- and our rule has always been when she gets in middle school we will discuss her getting a phone.

Am I the lone mean mom, or are you kiddos also phone less?

Desperately Seeking Garrett

She continues to “research phones” in hopes to find a more affordable option for her parents. I found this while cleaning her room this afternoon.

Nine years old is an interesting, scary and strange age. She wants to be old, but she is still a little girl. Case in point, her fairy box. She pulled an old shoe box from the recycle bin and created a Fairy Hotel in hopes the fairies will fly in and stay while she is asleep at night. She checks for fairy dust each morning- and she might have just found some a time or two.

Old. Young.
Wise. Naive.


The Fairy Hotel

She asks to wear lip gloss but still writes letters to Santa each year.
She has posters in her room of One Direction (a boy band) next to a poster of a Yorkshire Terrier puppy.
Pre-teen. Little girl.

We are torn as to what we should do regarding giving her this independence in the form of a telephone. Sticking to our guns for obvious reason makes a lot of sense on many levels, as does equipping her with what we also know is a safety feature from a parent’s perspective.

As many books as she can cram onto her shelves- along with Pez and a Magic 8 Ball.

Parenting comes without a hand book which means we have to make up the rules as we go. Blazing our little path with our first born keeps us ever thinking, questioning our decisions, praying and hoping we are making the best choices for our little people that hold our hearts.

To be continued……