On more than one occasion lately, Kenley has heard me say:
“If you think down, you will go down. If you think up, you will go up. You will always travel in the direction of your thinking.” -Bishop T.D. Jakes
And so it goes with one of her first ‘big’ life moments. Going after something she really wants, but struggling because she doesn’t think she’s good enough. For many people this can be a life-long struggle- never feeling good enough. As Kenley continued to doubt herself, telling me all the reasons why she wouldn’t or couldn’t be good enough I had to remind her that life is about choices.
And the night before tryouts, she had two choices.
Dwell on all the reasons why not, have a pity party, don’t try, or better yet just quit while you’re ahead. Quitting would surely protect your heart.
Make up your mind that you want this. You really want this. Why do you want it? What’s the worse that could happen if it doesn’t happen? Then go after it and make it happen. Doesn’t matter the outcome, you give it your best and you win regardless.
In true Kenley fashion, it took
some much (much) convincing but I saw it click. That moment where she allowed herself to think maybe, just maybe, I can do this. I saw it register first in her brain, then in her heart, and she decided, by golly, I am going for it. And so she did. One of those first defining moments for this 11 year old– where you want something so badly it scares you. Welcome to the big league of life, kid.
And for the record, you are always a winner in my book.